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Writer's pictureBridget Belden

Why we should practice gratitude through grief

Updated: Nov 28, 2022



Your Magenta Monday Magic.



This week is a gentle reminder for us all about being grateful in tough times.


It’s about feeling and acknowledging painful feelings, rather than pushing them away. I know this may sound strange, but like they say….


‘What you resist persists.’



Gratitude has played a big part in helping me move through the grief of losing my dad unexpectedly in June.


He had a bad fall on Father’s Day and two days later we took him off the ventilator.


Even though my heart was broken, I had so much gratitude for the way it had happened.


His wife shared that they had a beautiful weekend playing bridge and seeing old friends.


On Father’s Day he had watched golf - his favorite pastime - and talked to all of his kids.


That night as they were going to dinner he fell and lost consciousness. It happened quickly, and he most likely didn’t remember any of it.


So how could I be grateful through all of that?



I was grateful that he had had such a beautiful weekend.


I was grateful that he had spent Sunday - Father’s Day - doing what he loved most and receiving love from his kids, and that we had gotten a chance to tell him how much we loved him.


I was grateful that it happened quickly and he didn’t suffer.


Do I miss him terribly? Yes.


Was I completely shocked? Absolutely.


But being able to appreciate those things rather than being stuck in the misfortune of it all, allowed me to grieve and to take some heart in that, even in this traumatic event, there was the opportunity for gratitude.


This was not about toxic positivity or pushing the pain and heartache to the back burner.



The gratitude gave me the space and grace to completely feel and acknowledge that profound loss.


And allow myself to be in it so that I could then move through it.



 

Monday Mindshift


I have attached the Live BRIGHTer Blueprint for your use in diving deeper into developing your gratitude practice throughout this month and on your own.

Activity:


Can you recall a time in your life when you experienced something very difficult? Were you able to practice gratitude? If so, how did it help you? If not, how would practicing gratitude have changed how you processed the situation?


“We hold the key to lasting happiness in our own hands. For it is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” - Brene Brown


Sometimes we all need a good cry and to feel and acknowledge those strong emotions to be able to move through them and heal.


Please share any of your thoughts or experiences that have been helped through gratitude with others in our Thriving Collective Facebook Community!


Love Xoxo,




 

Living BRIGHTer is...


B - Be Brave

R - Cultivate Relationships

I - Live with Intention

G - Practice Gratitude

H - Prioritize Health

T - Live your Truth


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